5 ways to get over your jet lag as you return to work

5 ways to get over yur jet lag as you return to work5 ways to get over your jet lag as you return to workI just returned from a week of vacation across the pond, and I feel like a time traveler displaced. My up is down, my east is west, and my body currently thinks its living six hours ahead in Europe. My predicament, known more commonly as jet lag, makes settling back into work rhythms harder than usual as my body wants to stay up later or take a nap in the middle of the day. Our bodieshave a central circadian clock that regulate ourenergy, mood, and ability to stay alert, and when we travel long distances, we confuse and upend our clocks routines.If youre a frequent business traveler or employee returning back from a vacation across many time zones, coping with jet lag is an inevitable side effect of the joys of travel. Heres how to ease your transition and alleviate the time-bending effects of jet lag when you return back to the office.1) Go outside if you need to stay upThe sun i s natures body regulator. When were outside in daylight, our bodies naturally sync up their internal clocks to our environments. Exposure to bright lights can shift your 24-hour biological schedule that would otherwise make you think its bedtime. When youre exposed to light in the morning, you wake up earlier. So, when you go east, you need early morning light to make you wake up earlier for the earlier time zone, and when you go west you want to be exposed to bright lights later to make you stay up later for the later time zone.Its a trick thats been proven to work. Scientists found that they could minimize the effects of jet lag by having participants wake up earlier and shiftparticipants circadian rhythms into their destinations time zone before they even left for their flight.So if youre in a time zone where you need to be awake or youre currently working jet lagged, take a break to walk outside.2) Exercise early in the dayBefore you head off to work for your meetings, try exerc ising. It stimulates blood flow and sends more oxygenated blood pumping through your body, making your brain and the rest of you sharp and alert. Just remember not to exercise three hours before bedtime. That could prevent you from falling asleep.3) Avoid any chemicals that interfere with sleepAvoid caffeine, alcohol, and nicotine before your intended bedtime. These stimulants are only going throw off your circadian rhythm even more than it already is.It may be tempting to take a nip of alcohol to help you relax and speed up your sleepiness, but as Harvard University points out, alcohol is ultimately a stimulant which will increase the number of times you wake up at night andwill decrease the quality of sleep youll get.4) Drink waterWater is the secret weapon flight attendants use to keep their energy levels up across time zones.You may be tempted to reach for the coffee, but for me, water is much more effective and keeping away the tiredness that can come with jet lag,Nadia Clinton , Delta Air Lines Country Manager told geschftsleben Insider.5) Give yourself timeThe biggest lesson in overcoming major jet lag is realizing that theres no quick Band-Aid solution for recovery. The Sleep Health Foundation says that adjusting to your new time zone takes at least 2 or 3 days. So as youre groggy and tired in the meantime, recognize that these symptoms are unpleasant, but they will inevitably pass. Go easy on yourself. Dont expect a miraculous recovery your first day back in the office.

3 Real Estate Agent Agent Tricks You Can Use to Get Interviews

3 Real Estate Agent Agent Tricks You Can Use to Get Interviews 3 Real Estate Agent Agent Tricks You Can Use to Get Interviews Is there a more maligned group of marketers than real estate agents? Theyre famous and frequently mocked for their ability to spin straw into gold. But read through a few real estate listings and youll see strategies that are amazingly useful when writing a resume.1) Its not a house, its a whole new lifeReal estate agents know that when youre looking to move, youre looking for more than just a bigger space, or an extra bedroom. Youre looking for a new life. So they talk about houses in ways that help you picture that new life. Heres a great exampleWith sweeping ocean views from multiple decks and balconies, this multi level oceanfront home is the perfect year-round residence or vacation getaway. Designed to embrace family and friends, it offers a wonderful ocean view kitchen and dining area, spacious sunroom with walls of glass opening to an expansive deck, six bedrooms, five baths, playroom, fire-lit living room, and spiral staircase leading to the roof deck entertaining area. Swim, kayak or fish from your own slice of the rocky Maine coast.Cant you just imagine yourself swimming in your own bit of the ocean? If thats the kind of life you dream of, you have to go see this house. (Provided you also have $2.4M to spare of course)2) Dont Try to Appeal to Everyone.Notice the end of the last point. I said if thats the kind of life you dream of Of course, it wont be the life everyone dreams of. Some people would much rather live in the middle of a big city in a high-rise apartment, and this description wont appeal to them at all. But thats OK. The real estate agent has selected a target customer and is writing for that person.You must do the same. When you write your resume, try to imagine the person who will be reading it. Dont just picture a generic manager, picture a real one. Decide what she does all day. Think about what matters to he r. Put yourself in her shoes. Maybe youre imaging a person, or maybe youre thinking about an old boss. It doesnt matter as long as you know exactly who you are writing for. Because now you know your audience, you can tailor your message to appeal to them.3) Frame the Photo to Highlight the Good StuffThis house looks nice enough and its quite low-priced for the area. But notice how closely cropped the photo is. Bet you a hundred dollars that when you see this house in reality, its hemmed in by buildings on either side. The agent isnt lying shes simply showing you the best parts of the house and minimizing the stuff thats less desirable. Her job is to get you to at least give the house a chance once you go see it, you can decide whether the setting is wrong for you.You must do the same with your resume. What are the things you want to highlight? How can you crop the frame to make sure thats what people see while hiding the stuff that wont help you?In the end, writing a resume is no different from writing any other kind of advertisement. Real estate agents may be a maligned bunch, but they know what theyre doing when it comes to selling.

5 Ways to Prepare for the Best Job Market in Ten Years

5 Ways to Prepare for the Best Job Market in Ten Years5 Ways to Prepare for the Best Job Market in Ten YearsThis yearpromises to be the beginning of one of the hottest job markets in a decade.Just think, weve got ...Stock market at new highsTaxes headed to new lowsA governmental focus on creating new jobs in the U.S.If youre planning on making a job change this year, here are five things you can do to get your job hunt on track, starting today.1) Build or update your career planPlanning is a critical factor in business success.If you have read any of my books, watched any of my YouTube videos, read my articles on LinkedIn, or listened to my podcasts, you will likely know that I am a very avid advocate of career planning.Regardless of how you do it, the most important thing is that you invest some time in developing a plan.Secondly, youll want toregularly review and develop that plan.The plan you made five years ago (or even half a year ago) is not the plan you need today.2) Expand yo ur professional networkIts no secret that many of the best jobs get filled before they are posted.How does this happen?Someone knows someone who would be the perfect fit for the position.So, the more people you know and the more people who know you, the more exposure you will have to opportunities.A mentor of mine often likes to say thisIts all about relationships. Its about the influential people you know and what they say about you when you are not in the room.(For more on professional networking in your job search, readLinkedIn Networking Tips for Job Seekers.)3) Update your resume to be focused on accomplishmentsWhats the number one problem with most resumes?They are a list of responsibilities rather than an impactful sales tool for your career focused on the things you actually got done.Anyone can list responsibilities on a resume.Craft your resume to focus on what you have actually accomplishedThis will separate you from others and get you hired.(For more, check outWhat To Inc lude In A Resume - 16 Best Things.)4) Practice telling your storyYour story is the elevator speech you will provide anytime you are networking or in an bewerberinterview when someone asks says, Tell me about yourself.This is a story that should convey these three areas of your lifeYour personal career goalsYour philosophiesYour values in lifeThis story should also give people some real-life insight into who you are as a candidate and more importantly as a person.5) Identify a mentorHonestly, for the early part of my career, I thought mentoring was stupid.After all, I was the smartest person I knew. So how would someone help me?What I realized is that its not about being smart.Its about being efficient.And mentoring is very efficient.Finding wise and experienced people to give you advice saves you a lot of time and frustration in so many ways.In summary, if youre currently on the job hunt or considering a vocational move later this year, try implementing these five strategies today.T hese tips will help get you moving forward with your career.Closing thoughts from Find My ProfessionNeed help constructing or tweaking your resume?Here atFind My Profession,we offer professional resume writing services.Rather than crafting run-of-the-mill work, we will pair you up with a professional resume writer who has experience in your industry.Our resumes are Applicant Tracking System (ATS) compatibleand keyword optimized to increase conversions and land you interviews.Contact us today and let us discuss how we can help you find your dream job.

How to get people to like you 7 ways from an FBI expert

How to get people to like you 7 ways from an FBI expertHow to get people to like you 7 ways from an FBI expertMeeting new people can be awkward. What should you say? How can you make a good impression? How do you keep a conversation going?Research shows relationships are vital to happiness and networking is the key to getting jobs and building a fulfilling career.But whats the best way to build rapport and create trust? Plain and simple, who can explain how to get people to like you?Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moreRobin Dreekecan.Robin welches head of the FBIs Behavioral Analysis Program and has studied interpersonal relations for over 27 years. Hes an expert on how to make people like you.Robin is the author of the excellent book,Its leidlage All About Me The Top Ten Techniques for Building Quick Rapport with Anyone.I gave him a call to get some answers.(Note that Robin is notl age speaking for the FBI here, unterstellung are his expert insights.)Youre going to learnThe 1 secret to clickingwith people.How to put strangers at ease.The thing you do that turns people off the fruchtwein.How to use body language like a pro.Some great verbal jiu-jitsu to use onpeople who try tomanipulateyou.And a lot more. Okay, lets learn something.1) The Most Important Thing To Do With Anyone You MeetRobins 1 piece of adviceSeek someone elses thoughts and opinions without judging them.Ask questions. Listen. But dont judge. Nobody - including you - likes to feel judged.Heres RobinThe number one strategy I constantly keep in the forefront of my mind with everyone I talk to is non-judgmental validation. Seek someone elses thoughts and opinions without judging them. People do not want to be judged in any thought oropinion that they have or in any action that they take.It doesnt mean you agree with someone. Validation is taking the time to understand what their needs, wants, drea ms and aspirations are.So what should you do when people start spouting crazy talk?Heres RobinWhat I prefer to try to do is, as soon as I hear something that I dont necessarily agree with or understand, instead of judging it my first reaction is, Oh, thats really fascinating. I never heard it in quite that way. Help me understand. How did you come up with that?Youre not judging, youre showing interest. And that lets people calmly continue talking about their favorite subject themselves.Studies show people get more pleasure from talking about themselves than they do from food or moneyTalking about ourselves- whether in a personal conversation or through social media sites like Facebook and Twitter- triggers the same sensation of pleasure in the brain as food or money(To learn how FBI hostage negotiators build rapport and trust, click here.)So youve stopped being Judgy Judgerson and youre happily validating. Oh, if it were only that easy Whats the problem here? Your ego.2)Suspend Your Ego To Get People To Like YouMost of us are just dying to point out how other people are wrong. (Comment sections on the internet are fueled by this, arent they?)And itkills rapport. Want to correct someone? Want to one-up them with your clever little story? Dont do it.Heres RobinEgo suspension is putting your own needs, wants and opinions aside. Consciously ignoreyour desireto be correct and to correct someone else. Its not allowing yourself to get emotionally hijacked by a situation whereyou might not agree with someones thoughts, opinions or actions.Contradicting people doesnt build relationships. Dale Carnegie said it many years ago - and modern neuroscience agrees.When people hear things that contradict their beliefs, the logical part of their mind shuts downand their brainprepares to fight.Via Compelling People The Hidden Qualities That Make Us InfluentialSo what happened in peoples brains when they saw information that contradicted their worldview in a charged political env ironment? As soon as they recognized the video clips as being in conflict with their worldview, the parts of the brain that handle reason and logic went dormant. And the parts of the brain that handle hostile attacks - the fight-or-flight response - lit up.(For more on keeping a conversation fun, click here.)So youve stopped trying to be clever. But how do you get a reputation as a great listener?3) How To Be A Good ListenerWeve all heard that listening skills are vital but nobody explains the right way to do it. Whats the secret?Stop thinking about what youre going to say next and focus onwhat theyre saying right now.Be curious and ask to hear more about what interests you.Heres RobinListening isnt shutting up. Listening is having nothing to say. Theres a difference there. If you just shut up, it means youre mucksmuschenstill thinking about what you wanted to say. Youre just not saying it. The second that I think about my response, Im half listening to what youre saying because I m really waiting for the opportunity to tell you my story.What you do is this as soon as you have that story or thought that you want to share, toss it. Consciously tell yourself, I am not going to say it.All you should bedoing is asking yourself, What idea or thought that they mentioned do I find fascinating andwant to explore?Research shows just asking people to tell you more makes you more likable and gets themto want to help you.The basics of active listening are pretty straightforwardListen to what they say.Dont interrupt, disagree or evaluate.Nod your head, and make brief acknowledging comments like yes and uh-huh.Without being awkward, repeat back the gist of what they just said, from their frame of reference.Inquire. Ask questions that show youve been paying attention and that move the discussion forward.(To learn the listening techniquesof FBI hostage negotiators, click here.)I know, I know - some people are just boring. Youre not that interested in what theyre saying. So w hat questions do you ask then, smart guy?4) The Best Question To Ask PeopleLife can be tough for everyone rich or poor, old or young. Everyone.We all face challenges and we like to talk about them. So thats what to ask about.Heres RobinA great question I love is challenges. What kind of challenges did you have at work this week? What kind of challenges do you have living in this part of the country? What kinds of challenges do you have raising teenagers? Everyone has got challenges. Itgets people to share what their priorities in life are at that point in time.Questions are incredibly powerful. Whats one of the most potent ways to influencesomeone? Merelyasking for advice.Via Adam Grants excellentGive and Take A Revolutionary Approach to SuccessStudies demonstrate that across the manufacturing, financial services, insurance, and pharmaceuticals industries, seeking advice is among the most effective ways to influence peers, superiors, and subordinates. Advice seeking tends to be sign ificantly more persuasive than the takers preferred tactics of pressuring subordinates and ingratiating superiors. Advice seeking is also consistently more influential than the matchers default approach of trading favors.Twisting your mustache thinking you can use this for nefarious purposes? Wrong, Snidely Whiplash. It only works when youre sincere.ViaGive and Take A Revolutionary Approach to SuccessIn her research on advice seeking, Liljenquist finds that success depends on the target perceiving it as a sincere and authentic gesture. When she directly encouraged people to seek advice as an influence strategy, it fell flat.(For a list of the questions that can create a strongbondin minutes, click here.)But what if you have to approach someone cold? How do you get people who might not want to talk to you to willingly give you their attention?5) How To Make Strangers Feel At EaseFirst thingtell them you only have a minute because youre headed out the door.Heres RobinWhen people think youre leaving soon, they relax.If you sit down next to someone at a bar and say, Hey, can I buy you a drink? their shields goway up. Its Who are you, what do you want, and when are you leaving? That when are you leaving is what youve got to answer in the first couple of seconds.Research shows just asking people if now is a good time makes them more likely to comply with requestsThe results showed that compliance rates were higher when the requester inquired about respondents availability and waited for a response than when he pursued his set speech without waiting and inquiring about respondents availability.Nobody wants to feel trapped talking to some weirdo. People are more likely to help you than youthink, but they need to feel safe and in control.(For more on how to make friends easily, click here.)Even if you get all of the above right you can still come off like a shady used car salesman. And that fear stops you from meeting new awesome people.Robin says one of the key reason s people come off as untrustworthy is because their words and their body language are misaligned. Lets fix that.6) The Best Body Language For Building RapportYour words should be positive, free of ego and judgment - and your body language (non-verbals) needs to match.Here are the things Robin recommendsThe number one thing is youve gotta smile. You absolutely have to smile. A smile is a great way to engender trust.Keep that chin angle down so it doesnt appearlike youre looking down your nose at anyone. And if you can show a little bit of a head tilt, thats always wonderful.You dont want to givea full frontal, full body display. That could be very offensive to someone. Give a little bit of an angle.Keep your palms up as youre talking, as opposed to palms down. That says, Im hearing what youre saying. Im open to what your ideas are.So I always want to make sure that Im showing good, open, comfortable non-verbals. I just try to use high eyebrow elevations. Basically, anything going up and elevating is very open and comforting. Anything that is compressing lip compression, eyebrow compression, where youre squishing down, thats conveying stress.Research backs him up. From Dale Carnegie to peer-reviewed studies, everyone says smiles matter. (In fact, to increase their power, smile slower.)It makes ushappier too. Neuroscience research shows smiling gives the brain as much pleasure as 2000 bars of chocolate - or $25,000.Via Smile The Astonishing Powers of a Simple ActDepending on whose smile you see, the researchers found that one smile can be as pleasurable and stimulating as up to 2,000 bars of chocolate it took up to 16,000 pounds sterling in cash to generate the same level of brain stimulation as one smile This is equivalent to about $25,000 per smile(To learnhow to decode body language and read people like a book, click here.)So now you come off as the pleasant person you are, not as a scheming taker. But what do you do when the other person is a scheming taker ?7) How To Deal With Someone You Dont TrustThe name of this blog is not Helpful Tools For Sociopaths. Im not trying to teach youto manipulate others.But what should do you do when you feel someone is using these methods to try and manipulate you?Dont be hostile but be direct ask them what they want. What are their goals in this interaction?Heres RobinThe first thing I try to do is clarify goals. Ill stop and say, Youre throwing a lot of good words at me. Obviously youre very skilled at what youre doing. But what Im really curious about Whats your goal? What are you trying to achieve? Im here with my goals, but obviously you have to achieve your goals. So if you can just tell me what your objectives are, we can start from there and see if we can mutually take care of them. If not, thats fine too.I watch for validation. If someone is trying to validate me and my thoughts and opinions, I am alert to it. I love doing that as well. So now Im looking for intent. Are you there for me or ar e you there for you? If you are there strictly for your own gain and youre not talking in terms of my priorities ever, thats when Im seeing someone is there to manipulate me.Want to build a connection with someone? Focus on trust, not tricks. Thats how you earn respect. Trust is fragile. And mistrust isself-fulfilling.When you ask people whatthe most important character trait is, what do they say?Trustworthiness.Participants in 3 studies considered various characteristics for ideal members of interdependent groups (e.g., work teams, athletic teams) and relationships (e.g., family members, employees). Across different measures of trait importance and different groups and relationships, trustworthiness was considered extremely important for all interdependent others(To learn how to detect lies, click here.)Thats a lot more to digest than Just be yourself but far more effective. Lets round it up and make it something you can start using today.Sum UpHere are Robins tipsThe single most i mportant thing isnon-judgmental validation. Seek someone elses thoughts and opinions without judging them.Suspend your ego. Focus on them.Really listen, dont just wait to talk. Ask them questionsdont try to come up with stories to impress.Ask people about whats been challenging them.Establishing atime constraint early in the conversation can put strangersat ease.Smile, chin down, blade your body, palms up, open and upward non-verbals.If you think someone is trying to manipulate you, clarify goals. Dont be hostile or aggressive, butask them to be straightabout what they want.(For more insights from Robins book, click here.)Robins a fascinating guy and we ended up speaking for over an hour, so the above is just part of what he had to say.Ill be sending out an extended interview in my next weekly email update.Join over 285,000 readers andget myfree weekly update here.This articleoriginally appeared at Barking Up the Wrong Tree.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong peopleHow to get people to like you 7 ways from an FBI expertMeeting new people can be awkward. What should you say? How can you make a good impression? How do you keep a conversation going?Research shows relationships are vital to happiness and networking is the key to getting jobs and building a fulfilling career.But whats the best way to build rapport and create trust? Plain and simple, who can explain how to get people to like you?Robin Dreekecan.Robin was head of the FBIs Behavioral Analysis Program and has studied interpersonal relations for over 27 years. Hes an expert on how to make people like you.Robin is the author of the excellent book,Its Not All About Me The Top Ten Techniques for Building Quic k Rapport with Anyone.I gave him a call to get some answers.(Note that Robin is not speaking for the FBI here, these are his expert insights.)Youre going to learnThe 1 secret to clickingwith people.How to put strangers at ease.The thing you do that turns people off the most.How to use body language like a pro.Some great verbal jiu-jitsu to use onpeople who try tomanipulateyou.And a lot more. Okay, lets learn something.1) The Most Important Thing To Do With Anyone You MeetRobins 1 piece of adviceSeek someone elses thoughts and opinions without judging them.Ask questions. Listen. But dont judge. Nobody - including you - likes to feel judged.Heres RobinThe number one strategy I constantly keep in the forefront of my mind with everyone I talk to is non-judgmental validation. Seek someone elses thoughts and opinions without judging them. People do not want to be judged in any thought oropinion that they have or in any action that they take.It doesnt mean you agree with someone. Validat ion is taking the time to understand what their needs, wants, dreams and aspirations are.So what should you do when people start spouting crazy talk?Heres RobinWhat I prefer to try to do is, as soon as I hear something that I dont necessarily agree with or understand, instead of judging it my first reaction is, Oh, thats really fascinating. I never heard it in quite that way. Help me understand. How did you come up with that?Youre not judging, youre showing interest. And that lets people calmly continue talking about their favorite subject themselves.Studies show people get more pleasure from talking about themselves than they do from food or moneyTalking about ourselves- whether in a personal conversation or through social media sites like Facebook and Twitter- triggers the same sensation of pleasure in the brain as food or money(To learn how FBI hostage negotiators build rapport and trust, click here.)So youve stopped being Judgy Judgerson and youre happily validating. Oh, if it w ere only that easy Whats the problem here? Your ego.2)Suspend Your Ego To Get People To Like YouMost of us are just dying to point out how other people are wrong. (Comment sections on the internet are fueled by this, arent they?)And itkills rapport. Want to correct someone? Want to one-up them with your clever little story? Dont do it.Heres RobinEgo suspension is putting your own needs, wants and opinions aside. Consciously ignoreyour desireto be correct and to correct someone else. Its not allowing yourself to get emotionally hijacked by a situation whereyou might not agree with someones thoughts, opinions or actions.Contradicting people doesnt build relationships. Dale Carnegie said it many years ago - and modern neuroscience agrees.When people hear things that contradict their beliefs, the logical part of their mind shuts downand their brainprepares to fight.Via Compelling People The Hidden Qualities That Make Us InfluentialSo what happened in peoples brains when they saw inform ation that contradicted their worldview in a charged political environment? As soon as they recognized the video clips as being in conflict with their worldview, the parts of the brain that handle reason and logic went dormant. And the parts of the brain that handle hostile attacks - the fight-or-flight response - lit up.(For more on keeping a conversation fun, click here.)So youve stopped trying to be clever. But how do you get a reputation as a great listener?3) How To Be A Good ListenerWeve all heard that listening skills are vital but nobody explains the right way to do it. Whats the secret?Stop thinking about what youre going to say next and focus onwhat theyre saying right now.Be curious and ask to hear more about what interests you.Heres RobinListening isnt shutting up. Listening is having nothing to say. Theres a difference there. If you just shut up, it means youre still thinking about what you wanted to say. Youre just not saying it. The second that I think about my resp onse, Im half listening to what youre saying because Im really waiting for the opportunity to tell you my story.What you do is this as soon as you have that story or thought that you want to share, toss it. Consciously tell yourself, I am not going to say it.All you should bedoing is asking yourself, What idea or thought that they mentioned do I find fascinating andwant to explore?Research shows just asking people to tell you more makes you more likable and gets themto want to help you.The basics of active listening are pretty straightforwardListen to what they say.Dont interrupt, disagree or evaluate.Nod your head, and make brief acknowledging comments like yes and uh-huh.Without being awkward, repeat back the gist of what they just said, from their frame of reference.Inquire. Ask questions that show youve been paying attention and that move the discussion forward.(To learn the listening techniquesof FBI hostage negotiators, click here.)I know, I know - some people are just boring. Youre not that interested in what theyre saying. So what questions do you ask then, smart guy?4) The Best Question To Ask PeopleLife can be tough for everyone rich or poor, old or young. Everyone.We all face challenges and we like to talk about them. So thats what to ask about.Heres RobinA great question I love is challenges. What kind of challenges did you have at work this week? What kind of challenges do you have living in this part of the country? What kinds of challenges do you have raising teenagers? Everyone has got challenges. Itgets people to share what their priorities in life are at that point in time.Questions are incredibly powerful. Whats one of the most potent ways to influencesomeone? Merelyasking for advice.Via Adam Grants excellentGive and Take A Revolutionary Approach to SuccessStudies demonstrate that across the manufacturing, financial services, insurance, and pharmaceuticals industries, seeking advice is among the most effective ways to influence peers, superi ors, and subordinates. Advice seeking tends to be significantly more persuasive than the takers preferred tactics of pressuring subordinates and ingratiating superiors. Advice seeking is also consistently more influential than the matchers default approach of trading favors.Twisting your mustache thinking you can use this for nefarious purposes? Wrong, Snidely Whiplash. It only works when youre sincere.ViaGive and Take A Revolutionary Approach to SuccessIn her research on advice seeking, Liljenquist finds that success depends on the target perceiving it as a sincere and authentic gesture. When she directly encouraged people to seek advice as an influence strategy, it fell flat.(For a list of the questions that can create a strongbondin minutes, click here.)But what if you have to approach someone cold? How do you get people who might not want to talk to you to willingly give you their attention?5) How To Make Strangers Feel At EaseFirst thingtell them you only have a minute because youre headed out the door.Heres RobinWhen people think youre leaving soon, they relax.If you sit down next to someone at a bar and say, Hey, can I buy you a drink? their shields goway up. Its Who are you, what do you want, and when are you leaving? That when are you leaving is what youve got to answer in the first couple of seconds.Research shows just asking people if now is a good time makes them more likely to comply with requestsThe results showed that compliance rates were higher when the requester inquired about respondents availability and waited for a response than when he pursued his set speech without waiting and inquiring about respondents availability.Nobody wants to feel trapped talking to some weirdo. People are more likely to help you than youthink, but they need to feel safe and in control.(For more on how to make friends easily, click here.)Even if you get all of the above right you can still come off like a shady used car salesman. And that fear stops you from meeti ng new awesome people.Robin says one of the key reasons people come off as untrustworthy is because their words and their body language are misaligned. Lets fix that.6) The Best Body Language For Building RapportYour words should be positive, free of ego and judgment - and your body language (non-verbals) needs to match.Here are the things Robin recommendsThe number one thing is youve gotta smile. You absolutely have to smile. A smile is a great way to engender trust.Keep that chin angle down so it doesnt appearlike youre looking down your nose at anyone. And if you can show a little bit of a head tilt, thats always wonderful.You dont want to givea full frontal, full body display. That could be very offensive to someone. Give a little bit of an angle.Keep your palms up as youre talking, as opposed to palms down. That says, Im hearing what youre saying. Im open to what your ideas are.So I always want to make sure that Im showing good, open, comfortable non-verbals. I just try to use high eyebrow elevations. Basically, anything going up and elevating is very open and comforting. Anything that is compressing lip compression, eyebrow compression, where youre squishing down, thats conveying stress.Research backs him up. From Dale Carnegie to peer-reviewed studies, everyone says smiles matter. (In fact, to increase their power, smile slower.)It makes ushappier too. Neuroscience research shows smiling gives the brain as much pleasure as 2000 bars of chocolate - or $25,000.Via Smile The Astonishing Powers of a Simple ActDepending on whose smile you see, the researchers found that one smile can be as pleasurable and stimulating as up to 2,000 bars of chocolate it took up to 16,000 pounds sterling in cash to generate the same level of brain stimulation as one smile This is equivalent to about $25,000 per smile(To learnhow to decode body language and read people like a book, click here.)So now you come off as the pleasant person you are, not as a scheming taker. But wh at do you do when the other person is a scheming taker?7) How To Deal With Someone You Dont TrustThe name of this blog is not Helpful Tools For Sociopaths. Im not trying to teach youto manipulate others.But what should do you do when you feel someone is using these methods to try and manipulate you?Dont be hostile but be direct ask them what they want. What are their goals in this interaction?Heres RobinThe first thing I try to do is clarify goals. Ill stop and say, Youre throwing a lot of good words at me. Obviously youre very skilled at what youre doing. But what Im really curious about Whats your goal? What are you trying to achieve? Im here with my goals, but obviously you have to achieve your goals. So if you can just tell me what your objectives are, we can start from there and see if we can mutually take care of them. If not, thats fine too.I watch for validation. If someone is trying to validate me and my thoughts and opinions, I am alert to it. I love doing that as well. So now Im looking for intent. Are you there for me or are you there for you? If you are there strictly for your own gain and youre not talking in terms of my priorities ever, thats when Im seeing someone is there to manipulate me.Want to build a connection with someone? Focus on trust, not tricks. Thats how you earn respect. Trust is fragile. And mistrust isself-fulfilling.When you ask people whatthe most important character trait is, what do they say?Trustworthiness.Participants in 3 studies considered various characteristics for ideal members of interdependent groups (e.g., work teams, athletic teams) and relationships (e.g., family members, employees). Across different measures of trait importance and different groups and relationships, trustworthiness was considered extremely important for all interdependent others(To learn how to detect lies, click here.)Thats a lot more to digest than Just be yourself but far more effective. Lets round it up and make it something you can start u sing today.Sum UpHere are Robins tipsThe single most important thing isnon-judgmental validation. Seek someone elses thoughts and opinions without judging them.Suspend your ego. Focus on them.Really listen, dont just wait to talk. Ask them questionsdont try to come up with stories to impress.Ask people about whats been challenging them.Establishing atime constraint early in the conversation can put strangersat ease.Smile, chin down, blade your body, palms up, open and upward non-verbals.If you think someone is trying to manipulate you, clarify goals. Dont be hostile or aggressive, butask them to be straightabout what they want.(For more insights from Robins book, click here.)Robins a fascinating guy and we ended up speaking for over an hour, so the above is just part of what he had to say.Ill be sending out an extended interview in my next weekly email update.To learn more fromRobin (including the one type of body language that causes you to screw everything up), join over 285,000 r eaders andget myfree weekly update here.Related posts6 Hostage Negotiation Techniques That Will Get You What You WantHow To Stop Being Lazy And Get More Done 5 Expert TipsNew Harvard Research Reveals A Fun Way To Be More SuccessfulThis articleoriginally appeared at Barking Up the Wrong Tree.

The Advantages of How to Put Freelance Work on Resume

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The 30-Second Trick for How to Talk when Writing a Resume

The 30-Second Trick for How to Talk when Writing a Resume At the peak of your resume, you should incorporate a career objective. Show youre serious and hard-working when it has to do with leaving a very first impression, not lazy and careless. Furthermore, you might want to rely on an executive resume writing service to help make certain you have a higher chance of landing interviewsand jobs Meanwhile, spend that energy elsewhere in the vorstellung you cant do away with it, like by working with a group of specialist executive resume writers to tweak your resume and associated documents. Dont forget, youll have a cover letter to accompany your resume, where you are able to give a more in-depth account of your background info, experience, and goals. The custom writing business consists of excellent selection of inexpensive article providers from all over the world. If you consider obtaining educational writing services on the net fundamentally you must bear in mind lots of thi ngs before plunging in head-first. Academic writing solutions accessible online may also be convenient. How to Talk when Writing a Resume at a Glance Remain observant and alert so as to assess in in case that person is easy or secretive, authentic or ambiguous. After youve made a custom of maintaining eye contact, its time to consider your body positions. A gratitude journal is a good method to keep track of all the things which youre thankful for.